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Do I Tell My New Coworkers That I Have a Gas Problem?
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I have problems with gas. It’s because of a lot of medical things–basically, even when I strictly control my diet, it’s…let’s say…abundant. At my last job, I had my own cubicle, and it was never a problem, but I’m about to start work at a new company, and when I went in for my training session, I noticed that my desk is in a cube with another coworker. How do I address this? If it were less persistent, I wouldn’t say anything, but if I’m working closely with this person, the issue is going to come up. Often. More

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We’re Work Friends, Not Random Massage Friends
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One of my coworkers is a super-close talker and a weird creeper. You’ll be sitting there, minding your own business, when suddenly she appears out of nowhere, whispering up in your ear. The other day, this happened, and I told her she had scared the everloving piss out of me (people have told her before that she creeps, but she just laughs it off), so she decided the best option would be to “reassure” me by putting her hand on my shoulder, which weirdly escalated into a mini neck-massage. The whole thing made me massively uncomfortable, but I didn’t really know how to deal with it—I just wanted her to leave. So what do I say now, if anything? She’s already so defensive about how often she sneaks up on people that I’m worried anything I say won’t register, anyway. More

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Could My Dream Job Actually Be A Nightmare?
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I just landed the job of my dreams. The problem is, I feel nervous about leaving my current workplace. I have a lot of good friends in the office, and my boss has gone above and beyond in order to make me feel useful, appreciated, and happy here. I know that’s rare. But the job I want, and the growth I want, aren’t currently available at this company. Do I take the new job, knowing I might wind up in a situation where I’m not as happy but in a role I like better? I’m terrified I’ll be giving up a great situation. More

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Take My Advice: My Friend Got Me a Job…That I Hate, Do I Need to Keep It?
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A friend helped me get a job at her company, which I really needed. The problem is…I hate it. It’s boring, I get micromanaged daily, and I feel like my brain and soul are both rotting. Recently, I snagged an interview at a place that’s a much better fit (it’s not an office job, which helps). I’ve only been here a couple months, though, and I feel guilty–I know I would have never been hired if my friend hadn’t gone to bat for me. What do I do? I don’t want to stay in this terrible job, but I don’t want to damage my friendship, either.  More

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Take My Advice: Why Can’t My Work Friend Work Past My Promotion?
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I just nabbed a promotion at work, totally unexpectedly. I should be celebrating, but it’s been super hard since my best work friend has been giving me the cold shoulder ever since I found out. I think she thought she had the job in the bag, so this seems like sour grapes. I don’t need her to throw me a party or anything, but how do I get her to move on and at least be my lunch buddy again? Taking on a new job and new responsibilities is hard enough, I don’t want to be friendless, too! More

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Take My Advice: Will Making a Move on My ‘Work Husband’ Turn Me Into a Homewrecker?
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Take My Advice: Beat It…At Home
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Someone in my office is masturbating at work. How do I know? Because I have found jizz on the toilet seat TWICE in the last two weeks. We have a few single-stall, shared bathrooms, and we’re a fairly small office. I have a few suspicions of who it could be, but no real evidence. If it were someone leaving rotten food in the fridge I’d just send a company-wide email, but that doesn’t seem like it will work for this. Our company is smallish–maybe 30-35 employees–and we don’t really have HR. Help? More

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Take My Advice: Keep it Clean, People
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One of my coworkers doesn’t get kitchen etiquette. She always brings in foods that smell: fish (that she warms up–eww), broccoli that she’ll steam in the microwave, cheeses that make the whole fridge smell like feet. Once she left refried beans from takeout mexican in the fridge so long we thought a small animal had died. She’s also careless–besides leaving food around, she never really cleans up after herself. She’ll wash the pan she used, but when you go to use it, you realize there’s still food stuck in the corners, or she’ll spill something sticky over the counter and just…leave it there.  More

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Take My Advice: That’s Not What I Meant-or
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I work in marketing for a mid-sized company, and I’m the youngest person on my team. One of the older guys  has been kind of a mentor for me, and we get along well. The other day, a bunch of us went for drinks after work. I told him how I was disappointed that a couple of my ideas were rejected, and he told me, with this pitying look, that maybe they just weren’t good ideas. As the night went on, he started telling me how I was the “total package”–brains, beauty, talent–and as the night went on LONGER that got whittled down to just “you’re so gorgeous.” Nothing happened, and neither of us has said anything about it since, but now I feel weird around him. Should I tell somebody? He has more pull here than I do by a lot.  More