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Take My Advice: Spitting Mad
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My boyfriend is a great guy in most ways, with one big exception: he’s constantly spitting. It’s always outside, so it’s not a sanitary issue per se, but I find it totally disgusting. I’ve told him how nasty I think it is, and urged him to stop whenever I see him doing it, but it doesn’t change. How can I get him to stop doing this? More

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Take My Advice: I Know Too Much (Carnally)
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My friend is really excited about a new boyfriend, and last night we went out to drinks so I could meet him. Turns out I already know him…because we used to sleep together occasionally a couple years ago. It was always a drunken booty-call kind of a thing, and it ended after he told me that he needed to “work on things with his girlfriend.” Apparently, he’d had one the whole time. I don’t really want to mention my sexual history with my friend’s new guy, because I think it would make things awkward, especially when she’s so into him. But I feel like she should know he’s a cheater. Do I say something, or just bite my tongue? More

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Take My Advice: Weeding Out a Bad Influence
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I play third wheel a lot with two friends. They sell weed and I love smoking weed, so it works out pretty good. I get high, they get to hang with someone as cool as me. Anyways, he is a long-time friend and she has been with him for about two years…and she is bad news. She is unemployed, and sleeps, eats, or watches TV pretty much all day. She is also incredibly bossy to everyone, but especially my friend. She is an all-around bad person and a horrible influence on my friend–they do a ton of cocaine and even smoke crack! I want my friend to do better. I am super nice to her though and hang out with her all the time for free weed. He has never had a girlfriend before her, and I feel like she robbed him of relationships he would actually enjoy and benefit from. He doesn’t seem happy…but I can’t say anything, can I? More

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Take My Advice: Nonplussed Plus One
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My girlfriend of a year and a half  just received her 5th wedding invitation for the summer. Most of them are in town, but none of them are for people we know together–they’re all her friends. I told her I didn’t feel like going to all these with her last night, and she flipped out and called me selfish. I think she’s the one being selfish for expecting me to tag along to all these parties where I won’t know anyone. Who’s right? More