I know this is dumb, but recently I was watching an episode of Scandal with my boyfriend, and like in almost every episode, there was a half-forced makeout session. Those always annoy me, and I said something along the lines of “man, this show really does its best to perpetuate the idea that every woman has rape fantasies.” My boyfriend told me I was overreacting and we got in a big argument about it. He finally conceded that the president comes off as a douche, but he wouldn’t agree with me that the show is, in a lot of ways, anti-feminist. I know, this is a stupid fight about a stupid soap opera, but it made me wonder how he views women. Am I overreacting…twice? Or is my boyfriend a misogynist and he just doesn’t know it? More
A couple years ago, I went through a rough patch–my sister passed away suddenly, and I became very depressed for several months. By the time I came out of it, I’d put on upwards of 50 pounds. I’ve never been able to get it off; sometimes I’ll lose 10 or 15 pounds, but then it creeps back on, and I wind up heavier than where I started. More
I didn’t have a date for New Year’s, so I went on Tinder and matched up with a guy. He met me at my friend’s party. At first it was fine–being at a party got rid of some of the Tinder-date awkwardness–but then he started getting really flirty…with everyone but me. I thought we were really hitting it off, but the way he acted made me wonder if I was just kidding myself. Should I ask him on another date without people around? Maybe he’s just a friendly guy. More
I know you should never break up by text, but what’s the right way to end something that isn’t really anything, yet? I’ve hung out with this girl a few times, and we’ve fooled around, but it’s not really going anywhere, and I’ve started seeing someone I’m interested in having a more serious relationship with. More
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I’m getting married in a few months, and I don’t want to lose a ton of money on the wedding. So I was thinking a good solution would be to just ask for cash instead of registering, and let my guests know about my preference. My fiance says he doesn’t feel comfortable with that, but it’s not like he’s rolling in dough, either. We don’t need a lot of stuff (we’re merging our apartments already), is there really a problem with just telling people the best gift is leaving us debt-free? More
I made a mistake. Recently I went home for a friend’s wedding, and after getting tipsy at the reception, I hooked up with an ex from high school. Then I flew back home…to my live-in boyfriend. I’ve never cheated in the past, and I feel horrible about it. Obviously I’m not going to start up a long-distance thing with my ex, but I find myself fantasizing about him all the time now. Should I tell my boyfriend what happened? It’s eating me up. More
When I was a baby my parents divorced and my dad moved across the country and started a new family. He totally cut us off–we had no contact with him growing up, or with anyone on his side of the family tree. Fast forward to now. I met an amazing guy, we have the same weird sense of humor, like the same things–basically we’re a great match. We’ve been together a couple months and we’re in love…and after a lot of long conversations and some digging around facebook, I’m afraid he might be my first cousin. I don’t have proof, and I haven’t talked to him about it yet, but the snippets line up–he grew up near where I think my dad’s family was living, and I know my dad had a sister with kids. Should I tell him? Should I tell my mom? I’m freaking out that I might be inadvertently on the path to inbred babies. More
My close friend recently broke up with her boyfriend, and told us it was mutual, just grew apart, blah blah. But I ran into his best friend at a party and he told me that my friend not only cheated, she gave her boyfriend herpes. Once he woke up with herpes, basically, he realized she’d been sleeping around and dumped her. I know she’s in a “take a guy home from the bar” phase post-breakup, and seeing as she didn’t even tell us about what happened, I doubt she’s telling the guys. Should I say something to her? Should I go out with her and cockblock? I have no idea how to handle this, but I’m afraid for the eligible male population. More
