COMMENTARY — Hey man, cool t-shirt! “Real Men Wear Pink.” That’s supposed to mean you want attention, right?

Oh, you’re a feminist. 

Please, tell me more about your high horse.

I saw that article you shared on Facebook. “Women still discriminated against in the workplace” was the name of the piece. “Something needs to change!” was the comment you attached, presumably while wearing that confusing shirt.

It’s a neat trick, using a digestible headline as a pedestal upon which to shout, “Hey! I get it! I’m spreading the word!” But unless you practice feminism in the real world, your post is self-serving and colorless. It’s the social justice equivalent of practicing karate moves in the park so everyone can see.

To be honest, I don’t even think you read the whole article.

Being a feminist, regardless of gender, is about doing shit, like mentoring or protesting or making change in your own workplace. It’s about making changes in your household, and in the way you raise your children. If it’s a topic you’re truly passionate about, you’ll turn that passion into action. Without action, your posts are just ornaments to an online persona. They are fake. 

This fakeness will shine through. If you don’t have a track record of real-world feminism, it comes across in the condescending way you share these articles. 

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Here’s what you can do, for starters: Be vocal in your own office about women’s wages. Listen to the perspectives of others before you regurgitate your own. Do your research. Help the next generation of girls grow up with confidence.

Do something, or don’t. But if you don’t, don’t strike a pose.

And lose the shirt. You look like an idiot.

Couple in heated argument